Smart people make bad decisions all the time.
Not because they’re irrational, but because they’re operating inside systems they don’t fully see. Roles, rules, and incentives shape their options long before a decision is made.
This insight doesn’t come from theory alone. It comes from over 25 years inside systems where decisions are shaped by unacknowledged incentives and embedded power structures — from business to diplomacy, from personal relationships to political dynamics. My work is grounded in degrees in Decision Science, Conflict Analysis & Resolution, and an MBA.
I help decode those systems and redesign the approach as a Strategic Conflict Advisor.
Whether the issue is a relationship breakdown, a business dispute, or a workplace standoff, the same forces are at play: power, structure, and strategy.
I work with individuals and organizations to achieve their goals from within the system, not in opposition to it.
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I study systems so you don’t get crushed by them.
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